The Emotionally Healthy Church Planter

Kirstie Wells   |   March 2, 2021


One of the greatest privileges is to be called to plant a church or lead a church, it is a joy and great adventure! To be shepherds of God’s people is a great responsibility. Our foundation is to lead “after God’s own heart”.

“Then I will give you shepherds after my own heart who will lead you with knowledge and understanding”. Jeremiah 3:15

Our emotional health will however play a large part in how we lead. Emotional health can be seen by others. It becomes visible when we are under pressure, in a crisis or making difficult decisions. Our emotional health ultimately affects others and those we lead. Therefore, we need to continually tend to our inner life, our emotional health.

Paul told his leaders to: “keep watch over yourselves and all of the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers.” Acts 20:28


3 Keys to Maintaining Emotional Health

1. Pursue the Fruits of the Spirit

The daily pursuit of the fruit of the Spirit helps us to keep watch over ourselves. The gifts of the Spirit are freely given to us by God, we are to be stewards of our gifts, but the fruit of the Spirit is produced in us as we “keep in step with the Spirit” (Galatians 5:25). Gifts are given, fruit is produced. Pursue all of the fruit! Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control. Couple them together, as an example, self-control without kindness is simply restraint. When we keep in step with the Spirit, we develop the ability to build others up and become careful not to move beyond our authority over others. Paul’s apostolic authority was constructive, not destructive.

“The authority the Lord gave me for building you up not tearing you down”. 2 Corinthians 3:10

An emotionally healthy leader builds others up.

2. Guard your Thoughts

Guarding your thoughts! Our thought life plays a huge part in our emotional health, as very often our thoughts precede our emotions. When we are dependant on the Holy Spirit we can learn to “hear” our thoughts. Hope has a sound in your mind and in turn lifts your heart, fills you with strength. Hopelessness equally has a sound and takes us to despair. Thanksgiving has a sound, self-pity has a sound. When we learn to “hear” our thoughts and move towards the ways of the Holy Spirit, we are transformed by the renewal of our mind.

“Lord help me to gird up the loins of my mind and may I press forward towards the mark for the prize of my high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Charles Spurgeon

3. Restore your Soul

Learn well the way of restoring your soul. We are all unique and we need to rest to lead effectively. Learning to rest will help you become a leader of longevity. Remembering also that Jesus gives us rest for our soul and prayer is our ultimate life source.

“Whatever is your best time in the day, give that to communion with God.” Hudson Taylor

Prayer is a relationship. We need to pray for our churches, but we also need to leave room in our prayer for our relationship with the Lord. Just you and Him!

You will always be busy in ministry; Jesus’ disciples were so busy that they didn’t even have time to eat (Mark 6:31a). But Jesus said to them,

“Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” Mark 6:31b

Jesus gives you permission to leave the crowds and be with him, to restore your soul. He has indeed begun a good work in you. Go well!


Cathie Round